Say Hello,Wave Goodbye!™ Series #5

Do you feel like your career is being derailed?

Get on Track! Be on Track! Stay on Track!™

This is a continuation of our series on achieving success. Many of us are plagued with habits that keep us from being the best that we can be in our job, our career, or in life. Say Hello,Wave Goodbye!™ is an innovative coaching approach that removes those destructive habits and allows you to move forward and gain success. This series of blogs addresses the 12 most common habits that hold you back. They are called Core Dynamics of Common Problems™, which are excerpted from my chapter in the book, Coaching for Success (2008). You’ll learn why you are stuck and how the removal of these dynamics will set you free to pursue your goals. Last time we covered Getting Distracted. This issue will cover Lacking Self-Esteem.

5. Lacking Self-Esteem

When this dynamic is operating, we try to get a sense of ourselves from outside sources. For instance, we might define ourselves by our actions, our accomplishments, or maybe our possessions. It’s based on the illusion that we are incomplete and something outside of ourselves will complete us and make us whole and contribute to our happiness. Basically we are saying, once we have that promotion, that corner office, that bonus, things will be perfect. Or, if only this person (my spouse, my boss, my parent) acted better I would be happy. Those things are outside of you, as opposed to saying, “Look. I am whole and complete as I am. And I am just fine.” When this dynamic is no longer present, you have self-appreciation and are naturally happy. You recognize that external conditions do not dictate your self-worth. You are in control of your personal happiness.

Stay tuned for #6: Seeking Validation