9. Trying to Force an Outcome
When this dynamic is operating, people feel compelled to make things happen. These folks are commonly known as control freaks. They want things done in a particular way or in a particular time frame—“my way or the highway.” They mistakenly believe that they alone have control over what happens in their lives.
When this dynamic is removed, they get a sense of themselves from the essential nature of who they are rather than from their actions or accomplishments. This is true particularly in leadership roles. Many leaders who have to lead and direct others make the mistake of thinking that they are the ones who have to do it, as opposed to setting the example and letting others take on their own responsibilities.
Stay tuned for #10: Needing to be Right